FABULOUS WAYS TO ENJOY BEING SINGLE

“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them.” – Sex in the City

Break-Ups are very traumatic to everybody. But after the initial pain and sorrow passes, you’ll find that flying solo isn’t that bad. As a single person you may not realise just how good you have it. Most single people are so caught up in self pity that precious opportunities pass them by and they don’t even realise it.  Rather than becoming bitter, make a conscious decision to learn from your past relationship, whether or not you feel you had any fault in its demise.

So here are some fabulous ways and tips to enjoy being single 🙂

1. Don’t let anyone else pressure you into what they think your life should look like. If well-meaning friends begin to drop hints or arrange blind dates without consulting you, tell them thanks, but you will let them know when and if you are ready to begin dating. 
2. Ignore the naysayers. Remember that you don’t have to defend your right for being single, just like it’s rude to attack the validity of someone’s relationship.
3. Recognize the benefits. Think about it. Your friends who are taken can’t go to a party and flirt with that hot new guy. They can’t go out go out as often. They often feel they can’t go out dressed as sexy, for fear guys will “oggle” them. 
4. Focus on friendship. Being single doesn’t have to mean being lonely. When you’re single, you have more time to do a variety of things, all of which are opportunities to forge new friendships. Even if you’re an introvert, this can be an excellent time to nurture your extroverted side. 
5. Busy yourself. Do your homework. Paint your nails. Watch a brand new thriller movie. Read a book. Catch up on some beauty sleep. 
6. Appreciate the absence of compromise. Classic relationship advice dictates that compromise, sacrifice are essential to a healthy relationship. Perhaps if you’ve been in a relationship before, you realize how much stuff you had to give up in order to make that relationship work. Or maybe you forgot about that stuff, because you’re focused on the things you miss. Well, this is a good time to shift that focus. A relationship can add many good things to your life, but it also adds some rigidity, so take the time to appreciate your current flexibility. 😀
7. Explore. You’re young. You’re single. Don’t sit around all day moping: do something about it! Scope out some new cuties, or call that summer fling. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you.
8. Enjoy your freedom. Everybody has radical little fantasies…and the chances of pairing up with someone who shares such a fantasy with equal fervor is not something to hold your breath for. 
9. Don’t be desperate. Please, please, please don’t run around throwing yourself at every boy you see. You don’t have to dress a certain way (put down the tube top and micro-mini), do your hair or makeup a certain way, or act a certain way to get a guy. It may sound totally cliché, but be yourself, and you will find somebody who likes you for who you are. It may not be this week, this month, this year, or even during high school. But you will find someone.
10. Being married is a “lifestyle choice” and not a “requirement.” Therefore, being single is a “lifestyle choice” and not a “default option.” It is possible to CHOOSE to be single. 🙂
11. Write a contract. Promise yourself things that you’ll do when you start dating such as: clear your schedule from time to time to do the things you want to do, make time for school work, balance your life, etc.
12.  Just be yourself and keep an open mind. Don’t put your life on hold just because you are single. Live, learn and love every day and be of the mindset that you will be okay no matter if you remain single forever or if you eventually meeting someone. Because you will be.

T I P S AND W A R N I N G S  😀

• Ignore the toxic people in your life. It is easy to recognize them. Their negative words of fear and discouragement sap your energy.
• Don’t ignore your friends just because they have boyfriends. Just like you can’t help having feelings for your crush, they couldn’t help it that their feelings for their crushes were returned. Don’t hold it against them. Just be happy for them. You’d want them to be happy for you.
• Be sociable, go out and have fun and meet new people, just because there is no one in your life yet doesn’t mean there never will be. Take your time and wait for the right person!!
• Don’t change yourself for a boy. Ever. It’s not worth it.
• Some lessons are better learned through observation, rather than experience.
• Don’t settle for a boy not worthy of your time. If he smokes, drinks, does drugs, or harms you in any way, get out. Fast.

To wrap it all people, let’s hear it today for being single. Exploring the world, finding adventures, and scoping big scenes are hallmarks of being cool with being you. Because look — falling in love is great and falling in love is nice but that doesn’t mean going alone can’t also be sugar and spice. Good days and bad days,setting suns and shining stars, it’s all about perspective and focusing on who you are. Because if all you need is love, and all love needs is you, then it’s great to relax and enjoy… just being you with you. 🙂

BE HAPPY AND ENJOY THE JOURNEY 😀 ❤